I have had a total of 5 first dates. Not as many as I would have liked, but it is something. What did I learn my first 4 months in my dating adventure? A whole lot actually.

He was cute, 2 inches shorter than me, made me go dutch on the meal, and tried to hold my hand afterwards. Opposite lifestyles: he is happy on a tractor with an Ipod and I am happy with a credit card trying on Fendi heels.
Lesson Learned: You definitely should not change for a guy . A kiss now and then is fine from a guy, but don’t waste your time with a guy you really don’t want.
He was a lot older than me, 3 inches taller, paid for the evening, and ate popcorn disgustingly during the film. No chemistry and no interest on my end.
Lesson Learned:
1. Make sure you really like a guy before you enter a movie theater with him. He might ruin the experience.
2. Accept appearance does matter. I don’t expect the guy to show up in a Tom Ford shirt and diesel jeans or even know who the designers are, but when your clothing looks like you bought it 20 to 30 lbs ago, then it is just a distraction. I can’t concentrate on anything else but trying to redress you in my mind, and sometimes even I can’t get creative enough to make you better.
3. If he brings up War of Witchcraft (or is it World of Warcraft? No matter) as a daily activity, or states “yeah my friends participate in LAIR” or his last girlfriend was 19 years old while he is 38–just know this will never work and try to leave as soon as possible.
4. The block feature is on a dating website for a reason. If he fits the 3 points I just described and still tries to contact you even after you explain you are super busy, HIT THE BLOCK BUTTON. It is a bitchy move but a great resource.
He was cute, an inch taller than me, ambitious, younger, and talented. This was a crash and burn.
Lesson Learned:
1. When a man cooks, and cooks something great, it is an aphrodisiac.
2. Hold off on the heavy liquor until you realize this guy is a great match.
3. I know I like aggressive men who still involve me in the decision making process. Once a man shows he is really too passive. I should just exit.
4. Stop serial dating if lessons 1-3 occurs. He won’t change.
Date #4: Woome.com
Lesson Learned:
Not every site will fit my dating style.
He was cute, 4 inches taller, 1 year younger, and intelligent. He knows as much about fashion as I do. A lot of chemistry but more of a friend.
Lesson Learned:
1. Nice guys do exist
2. If on the first date you know you would make better friends than lovers, it is probably a good idea to move it there.
3. The power of the text. If a guy mainly texts you everyday and rarely calls, know this is most likely not going to last too long. He is putting in too little effort.
4. Go with your gut instinct.
I will take all these lessons and try to double my amount of dates this trimester. My goals:

1. Be more aggressive and start emailing on the dating website more.
2. Expand my search age-wise and height-wise.
3. Plan more first dates, and stop multiple dates.
4. Get a guy who understands my schedule. I have several projects going on. He is just one of them.

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